HOMEPAGE

It all came to pass
ONLINE NOVEL (It all came to past in the early fall of 1944 on a Friday


"My MIG29 ride page"




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THE COMMITMENT

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Book Description

The true story of a marriage (not really), a lovable and relentless mother, a six-year old who says his parents cannot get married (but wants to go to the reception), a partner who doesn’t want to act like a straight person, and the author, who has written a hilarious and poignant memoir about making "The Commitment."

There is no hotter issue than gay marriage in the culture-war debate, and Dan Savage, one of America’s most outspoken and beloved columnists, takes it on and makes it personal in this rollicking memoir of coming to terms with the very public act of marriage. What he discovers will make readers—gay or straight, right or left, single or married—howl with laughter as well as rethink their notions of marriage and all that it entails.

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Reviewer: Jason A. Miller (New York)

Wake-Up Call

Dan Savage's new book examines the notion of gay marriage and whether or not it's a good thing -- not just for the USA, that is, but also for Dan Savage himself and his partner of 10 years, Terry.

Part introspective memoir, and part tirade against dinosaur-minded virtuecrats currently behind the wheel in Washington D.C., "The Commitment" is at all times an energetic wake-up call questioning just what it is that drove eleven (mostly) red states to pass "anti-gay marriage" Constitutional amendments last November. Savage is strongly in favor of gay marriage in general, while not sure whether he himself wants to marry. This give the book the dimensions it needs to succeed.

The best chapters are "Blue", in which Savage looks at the current political state of this country, while casting a hopeful eye at nearby Canada; and "Two Moments of Transcendent Bliss". Followers of Savage will know that he and Terry jointly adopted a son who is now a skateboarding metalhead 6 year-old. In this latter chapter, Savage has to explain to his son what it is to be gay, and what it is to be married. If you can't make it through that chapter without being swayed by the pro-marriage argument, then none of the rest of this book is going to work for you.

I'll admit that while I'm something of a left-winger, my views have never swayed as far to the left as the death-to-Israel politics of NYC's alternative weekly "The Village Voice", where I first discovered the "Savage Love" column. I also had no strong opinion on gay marriage until last year, when I took sides during the run-up to the Presidential election. By the end of "The Commitment", I did have to question why I remained undecided on the issue for so long.

Savage's writing is 100% partisan and 100% persuasive, and he is most certainly not one of (to quote another recent partisan screed) one of the 100 people ruining America.

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Reviewer: Brett Benner (Los Angeles, CA)

For Any With An Opinion On Gay Marriage

How do I effectively convey my feelings after reading this book? First off I am so glad it's been written. So glad that there is something that can be put into other people's hands that examines this ridiculous opposition to gay marriage with a sense of humor, heart, and a little thing called facts. (Something the Christian right likes to forget about in their pursuit of oh so compassionate discrimination.) What I love about the book is he doesn't moralize, and tell anyone what they should do, instead it's simply the journey that he and his boyfriend Terry go through. That process manages to create a myriad of viewpoints that structures much of the book's backbone, from his pressuring Mother, to his brother adopting a somewhat "gay lifestyle" in regards to co-habitating with his girlfriend, and their somewhat open relationship. My son is two and it can be incredibly frustrating and sad listening to these Bible Thumping Red State Imbeciles spouting just plain lies in the name of Jesus to create a political victory. Luckily this book was a reminder that regardless of what careless and nasty things have been said or will continue to be said about gays and their rights to marriage and children, love is ultimately what makes a family. Love makes a commitment, and sometimes that's loud enough to drown out all the other white noise.

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Reviewer: Darcy McInnis (Seattle, WA)

Hopeful, uplifting, and energizing!

First let me say that Dan Savage's book "The Commitment" should be required reading for anyone working for marriage equality for same sex couples. I think those of us who feel so strongly about this issue get too caught up in trying to "convince" the other side that we are worthy of marriage. Rather than get mired in all that, Dan Savage just tells it like it is, calmly and logically pointing out the numerous large holes in every ridiculous argument our opponents make (to me the most ludicrous of which is that marriage is about the having and raising of children). In Dan's words, "Some people in love decide to have children, some don't, but either way society benefits when two people in love make a formal commitment to care for each other...Denying same sex couples the right to marry amounts to a refusal to recognize that gays and lesbians are capable of love. It also communicates to gays and lesbians that we are better off single than coupled. Both are lies."

Second, as someone who is proud to have shared 16 wonderful years (and counting!) with my same sex partner - the last 5 of which we have also shared with our son - the topic of same sex marriage is intensely personal and important to me. I found this book to be hopeful, uplifting, and energizing. It was also laugh-out-loud funny in parts. I came away with a renewed sense of hope that my son will one day see his two moms legally married in this country.

also have to say that I was a bit surprised that I was so profoundly moved by some of Dan Savage's prose. Despite being from Seattle and a sometimes reader of The Stranger, the paper he edits, I have never read any of his other books. I was surprised to realize that he is an amazing writer!

If you care about this subject then I would highly recommend this book.

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Reviewer: Douglas N. Murphy

Thankful for his voice

Dan Savage effectively argues for the legalization of same-gender marriage with this absolutely hilarious narrative in which he shares his love and devotion to family. The laughs are needed, considering the frustration and anger that so many of us have felt as we continue to try to convince the people of our country that same-gender couples deserve the same legal recognition and protection that male-female couples traditionally receive. Marriage equality is an important civil rights issue to which fair-minded Americans should give their support not just by way of their votes at the poles but by speaking out as well. Dan Savage speaks out beautifully. And I love his mother, "The Mad Clipper."

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Reviewer: Tara @ WPP "Tara" (Southern California)

The Commitment

Although I am not married the thought of it has ran through my mind several times.. So when I came across this book I thought it could give me some insite on "The Commitment".. Sure enough this really shed some light for me and I'd recommend it to anyone that's thinking about getting married or even those who are married.

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Reviewer: Robert Carlberg (Seattle)

Love Conquers All

I think it was an earlier book by Mr. Savage that I described as "you'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll blow milk out your nose..." but I'd like to use that line again.

Savage is a damn good writer -- ironic, witty, smart, funny, tender, acerbic and eerily moralistic for a man living with another man and writing about sex for a living. Oh well, it's the contradictions that give him depth.

He makes much of the fact that, of his siblings, he's the most traditional. His brothers and sister chide him that, in his family, he's the most prudish among them. And he makes fun of himself because, in his own family of boyfriend and son, he's the stereotypically gay one who cries at weddings and light romantic comedies. What a sap.

Much of the book of course is a meditation on marriage -- a rather recent (12th Century) invention of the Church designed to bind parishioners to their parish -- and why being denied that silly piece of paper makes it seem so much more seductive.

Savage takes predictable jabs at the illogic of so-called "Defense of Marriage" legislation... at adoption forms with spaces for "mother" and for "father"... and at the current administration for packaging their Calvinistic fear of hedonism as a "family value." But he also writes clearly and concisely about the nature of love, the dignity of commitment and the importance of having defensible values in this crazy world.

In the end when you're writing a memoir (as Savage has done 3 times now) it's important to come off as "likable" because otherwise nobody is going to give a poop what you think or feel. To Savage's credit, I have long considered him one of my closest friends even though we've never formally met.

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Daniel Keenan Savage (born October 7, 1964[1] near Chicago, Illinois) is an openly gay American sex-advice columnist, author, media pundit, journalist and newspaper editor whose strong opinions pointedly clash with both traditional conservative moral values and those put forth by what Savage has been known to call the "gay establishment." He is also a playwright and theater director, both under his real name and under the name Keenan Hollahan, using his middle name and his grandmother's maiden name.

His internationally syndicated relationship and sex advice column is Savage Love. Its tone is humorous, profane, and on occasion hostile to conservative opponents, as in the Santorum controversy. His first break came while in Madison, Wisconsin, as a manager at a local video store. A friend from The Onion newspaper was starting up The Stranger; Savage suggested it should have an advice column, not knowing that he would be offered the position. Savage stated in a February, 2006, interview in The Onion AV Club that he began the column with the express purpose of providing mocking advice to heterosexuals. "Forever, I'd read letters that had been written to straight advice columnists from gay people. Sometimes the advice was okay, but oftentimes it was clueless about gay issues or gay people or gay sex or gay rights. And I just thought it would be funny for once if there was an advice column written by a gay person where straight people had to get slapped around or treated with contempt." Savage wanted to call the column "Hey Faggot!" His editors at the time refused his choice of column name, but for the first several years of the column, he attached "Hey Faggot!" at the beginning of each printed letter as a salutation. After the first year or so, he moderated the tone of the column and tried to provide more helpful advice. Recently, he has written in a number of columns about "straight rights" concerns, such as the HPV vaccine and the morning-after pill, saying in his November 9, 2005, column that "[t]he right-wingers and the fundies and the sex-phobes don't just have it in for the queers. They're coming for your asses too."

In addition to authoring four books, Savage is currently the editor of the Seattle weekly newspaper The Stranger and a contributor to This American Life, an hour-long radio show on Chicago's WBEZ syndicated by PRI. From at least September 1994 until 1997, he had a weekly 2-hour call-in show called Savage Love Live on Seattle's KCMU (now KEXP). From 1998 to 2000, he ran the bi-weekly advice column Dear Dan on the news website abcnews.com.

His political bent is primarily leftist or liberal, with a pronounced libertarian streak. In 2000, he wrote that while suffering from the influenza virus while on an assignment for salon.com to cover the Iowa caucuses [3], he was so angered by televised remarks in opposition to same-sex marriage by conservative Republican presidential hopeful Gary Bauer that he abandoned his original plan "to follow one of the loopy conservative Christian candidates around -- Bauer or Alan Keyes -- and write something insightful and humanizing about him, his campaign, and his supporters." Instead, he volunteered for the Bauer campaign, intending to try to infect the candidate with his flu. He wrote that he'd licked doorknobs and other objects in the campaign office, and handed Bauer a saliva-coated pen, hoping to pass the disease on to Bauer and his supporters (though he later said that much of the article had been fictitious). He also registered and participated in the caucus, which was illegal, as Savage was not an Iowa resident. He was charged with perjury and felony assault, pled guilty to a misdemeanor charge of fraudulent voting in a caucus, and was sentenced to a year's probation, 50 hours of community service, and a $750 fine.

He does not, however, shy away from defending unexpected positions: he disapproves of the gay pride theme, has called for harsher civil penalties against people who knowingly place others at risk of HIV, and supports sending more American troops to Iraq in order to improve the situation of civilians there (see U.S.-led occupation of Iraq). He himself describes his view towards family as "conservative", and his boyfriend, Terry Miller, is a "stay-at-home dad" for the couple's adopted son, Daryl Jude "DJ" Pierce (b. 1998), but at the same time is skeptical towards the concept of monogamy. He has often clashed with other perceived leaders of Seattle's gay community. For example, he has often expressed contempt for the editorial calibre of the Seattle Gay News and under his editorship, The Stranger frequently publishes criticisms of the messages put out by local AIDS organizations and of how they handle their money. He is also friends with the controversial gay pundit and self-labeled South Park Republican Andrew Sullivan, whose influential blog (http://www.andrewsullivan.com) he took over for a week in August 2005 while Sullivan was on vacation.

Savage's editorship of The Stranger has established him as a voice in local Seattle politics, in which he has been an outspoken critic of the Teen Dance Ordinance and other crackdowns on all-ages events. Savage argues that closing down supervised all-ages dance venues drives teens to boredom and reckless activities: "Places like Ground Zero and the Kirkland Teen Center are invaluable from a law enforcement point of view. They keep kids out of, say, 7-Eleven parking lots or the homes of friends whose parents are away."[8] After growing up in Chicago, Savage studied theater and history. As a writer and director for theater, in the mid-1990s Savage (working under the name "Keenan Hollahan") was founder of Seattle's Greek Active Theater which mainly staged queer re-contextualizations of classic works, such as a tragi-comic Macbeth with both the titular character and Lady Macbeth played by performers of the opposite gender. More recently, in March 2001 he directed his own "Egguus," a parody of Peter Shaffer's 1973 play Equus, undercutting its stodginess by substituting a fixation on chickens for a fixation on horses.

Savage surprised many of his readers by writing in his syndicated sex advice column: "I'm Catholic—in a cultural sense, not an eat-the-wafer, say-the-rosary, burn-down-the-women's-health-center sense. I attended Quigley Preparatory Seminary North, a Catholic high school in Chicago for boys thinking of becoming priests. I got to meet the pope in 1979 when he dropped by our school during his visit to Chicago" [9]. Shortly after the death of Pope John Paul II, he wrote in the same column that:

John Paul II had more "no's" for straight people than he did for gays. But when he tried to meddle in the private lives of straights, the same people who deferred to his delicate sensibilities where my rights were concerned suddenly blew [him] off. Gay blowjobs are expendable, it seems; straight ones are sacred.So I can't get behind this orgy of cheap and easy piety... I'm sorry the old bastard's dead, I'm sorry he suffered. But I'm not so sorry that I won't stoop to working John Paul II into a column about zombie fetishism.

On December 3, 2002, after columnist Ann Landers' June 22 death, Savage purchased her desk

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